If you learn that your child is a target of bullying, you must create an environment that is nonthreatening and safe for him or her. Accomplish this by remembering these steps: Listen to his feelings in a nonjudgmental manner. If you react with a strong emotional outburst, you may shut your child down because he […]
Bullying. It’s Not a Tragedy, But an Opportunity
One key point I’d like to impress upon parents is that—strange as it may sound now—there can be something really positive about bullying. Think about the times when you’ve felt really good about yourself. Go ahead: Think of a few examples of times when you felt proud of yourself. Got it? Most of the experiences […]
Long-Term Consequences of Bullying
Even when the bullying doesn’t end in broken bones or death, it can have long-standing consequences for all involved—the target, the bully, those who assist the bully or the target, and the observers. You may have seen talk shows where formerly bullied kids come to say “look at me now” to their old tormentors. There’s […]
Bullying Statistics – Where the Power Lies
Bullying Statistics: 85% Do Nothing Statistics on bullying show that, on any given day in a classroom, bullies and targets usually constitute 15 percent of the population. That means that the other 85 percent of the children serve as observers in the bully dynamic. Interestingly enough, these observers may be the most powerful actors in […]
Why Are Kids Bullied?
Bullies will find any excuse to pick on a target. Too tall. Too short. Too fat. Too skinny. Too smart. Too stupid. Poor. An out-of-fashion haircut. Glasses. Braces. Different religion. Different race. Perceived homosexuality. Poor athletic ability. Flat-chested. Developing breasts early. A stutter. Teacher’s pet. Shy. Disabled. Any type of perceived vulnerability will make a […]
Who Are the Bullies?
Although most kids will “test out” bullying by testing out their power, the majority quickly discover they’re not cut out for it. A child proves to be a true bully if he keeps up the role for months or years, loses his empathy with these incidents, or if his initial forays into bullying are exceptionally […]
Why Is Bullying Getting Worse?
People sometimes ask me if there’s a “bullying gene.” No, not as far as we can tell. Is it because of neglectful parents, birth order, the media .. . ? Probably a little of everything you’d imagine. But it makes many people wonder why bullying is getting worse. Babies are born with certain temperaments. Some […]
Gossip is Bullying
So I learned about gossip bullying first hand recently while I was preparing for a talk on bullying about relational bullying, about girl bullying, mean girl stuff. I was sitting in a coffee shop, I was working with a colleague and my colleague left and a woman was sitting next to me who must have […]
Do I talk to the parents of the child bullying my child?
For more information on elementary education visit KidsInTheHouse.com For more information on elementary education visit KidsInTheHouse.com TRANSCRIPT: In any bullying situation if you have 2 kids together at your house or you hear about a bullying situation, the question parents always wrestle with is “do I call the other parent?” It’s a very risky question […]
What To Do If Your Child Is Bullied
Do I talk to the parents of the child bullying my child? For more information on elementary education visit KidsInTheHouse.com TRANSCRIPT: In any bullying situation if you have 2 kids together at your house or you hear about a bullying situation, the question parents always wrestle with what to do if your child is bullied, “do […]