• Authoritarian. An authoritarian is someone who is not very big on showing feelings, rigid about rules, and wants to remain firmly in control of the kids’ lives. Obedience is highly valued, and kids are not encouraged to participate in decision-making. • Authoritative. Authoritative parenting, on the other hand, is still structured but allows children […]
Years ago, kids would write their anonymous gossip on bathroom walls (“For a good time, call . . . ,” “Kerri slept with Darren,” “George is a fat pig”), now they’ve found a way to send their nastiness to a much wider audience. The newest and potentially most dangerous form of bullying, “cyberbullying,” is growing so fast, it is proving difficult for researchers and therapists to keep up.
Teaching your kids how to deal with gossipmongers can be challenging. Kids want so badly to set the record straight and defend themselves against the gossipmonger allegations. But mostly, protesting backfires and keeps the gossip alive.
Role-playing about bullying Is important to help her rehearse what to say and do when bullying does occur. Forget about insulting or threatening the bully. Forget about telling your child to “just ignore it.” Cute” and snappy comebacks are tough to pull off, but possible if your child feels comfortable with this strategy.
When your child has been bullied, especially repeatedly, it is time to construct a plan that will see the child through the crisis period.
Copyright: fizkes/123RF Stock Photo A parent’s natural instinct is to deny, deny, deny anything the tormentors say, and teach their kids that they’re gorgeous, brilliant, talented, perfect little people. And when the children are very young, they buy into it—they agree that they’re perfect. Soon, though, the other kids knock them off their perfect pegs […]
Encourage your children to start positive conversations or shall I say, “positive gossip.” Instead of saying negative things behind others’ backs, they can have fun spreading positive rumors instead.
When I talk to parents, this part of my questioning often surprises them—and opens their eyes. How much do you gossip? Most people think they’re not into gossiping, but if you really take time to examine your own behavior, you may surprise yourself.
Just About Everyone Has a Bullying Story. So Do I! Mine happened when I was eleven years old. Every day after school, children of all ages played on my block on Long Island, New York. The house we grew up in was close to the next house and it was up to me to make […]
This post may seem a little harsh, but we all must keep in mind the words that come out of our mouths.