Role-playing about bullying Is important to help her rehearse what to say and do when bullying does occur. Forget about insulting or threatening the bully. Forget about telling your child to “just ignore it.” Cute” and snappy comebacks are tough to pull off, but possible if your child feels comfortable with this strategy.
When your child has been bullied, especially repeatedly, it is time to construct a plan that will see the child through the crisis period.
Copyright: fizkes/123RF Stock Photo A parent’s natural instinct is to deny, deny, deny anything the tormentors say, and teach their kids that they’re gorgeous, brilliant, talented, perfect little people. And when the children are very young, they buy into it—they agree that they’re perfect. Soon, though, the other kids knock them off their perfect pegs […]
Encourage your children to start positive conversations or shall I say, “positive gossip.” Instead of saying negative things behind others’ backs, they can have fun spreading positive rumors instead.
When I talk to parents, this part of my questioning often surprises them—and opens their eyes. How much do you gossip? Most people think they’re not into gossiping, but if you really take time to examine your own behavior, you may surprise yourself.
Just About Everyone Has a Bullying Story. So Do I! Mine happened when I was eleven years old. Every day after school, children of all ages played on my block on Long Island, New York. The house we grew up in was close to the next house and it was up to me to make […]
This post may seem a little harsh, but we all must keep in mind the words that come out of our mouths.
Copyright: ryujikawano/ 123RF Stock Photo We are all involved in the bullying problem to some degree We rarely think about ourselves as having anything to do with bullying, especially as adults. We think it happens to someone else. But the reality is that we are all involved in the bullying problem to some degree, some of […]
Analyzing how parents can break the bullying cycle, we find that bullies and targets often grow up in the same sorts of households.
Sorry, Mom and Dad, but your words of praise just don’t mean as much anymore as the child’s peers’ words do. As a child gets older, he begins to understand that the parent pretty much has to say nice things (you’re biased!) and that what you say doesn’t always match the way the rest of the world sees it.