When I talk to parents, this part of my questioning often surprises them—and opens their eyes. How much do you gossip? Most people think they’re not into gossiping, but if you really take time to examine your own behavior, you may surprise yourself.
My Bullying Story.
Just About Everyone Has a Bullying Story. So Do I! Mine happened when I was eleven years old. Every day after school, children of all ages played on my block on Long Island, New York. The house we grew up in was close to the next house and it was up to me to make […]
How to Make Your Child Feel Powerless
This post may seem a little harsh, but we all must keep in mind the words that come out of our mouths.
We All Contribute to the Bullying Problem
Copyright: ryujikawano/ 123RF Stock Photo We are all involved in the bullying problem to some degree We rarely think about ourselves as having anything to do with bullying, especially as adults. We think it happens to someone else. But the reality is that we are all involved in the bullying problem to some degree, some of […]
How Parents Can Break the Bullying Cycle
Analyzing how parents can break the bullying cycle, we find that bullies and targets often grow up in the same sorts of households.
Approval of Peers
Sorry, Mom and Dad, but your words of praise just don’t mean as much anymore as the child’s peers’ words do. As a child gets older, he begins to understand that the parent pretty much has to say nice things (you’re biased!) and that what you say doesn’t always match the way the rest of the world sees it.
Fitting In Helps Your Child’s Self Esteem
If they need the stylish clothes and the hairspray and the contact lenses to feel okay about themselves for now, so be it. It’s not about wimping out; it’s about your child’s self-esteem and emotional survival in some very difficult years, where fitting in (and therefore “blending” in) is of primary importance.
Gaining Social Confidence as a Child
True victory is achieved when the child feels friend-eligible and confident enough to know that no matter what a bully says, the child is still okay.
Preserving Your Child’s Bullyproofing
Once the crisis is resolved, we move to the third stage, which I refer to as the bullyproofing preservation phase.
How to Deal with Relational Bullying
Dealing with gossip and rumors can be maddening because kids want so badly to set the record straight and defend themselves against the allegations. But mostly, protesting backfires and keeps the gossip alive.
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