Once the crisis is resolved, we move to the third stage, which I refer to as the bullyproofing preservation phase.
Dealing with gossip and rumors can be maddening because kids want so badly to set the record straight and defend themselves against the allegations. But mostly, protesting backfires and keeps the gossip alive.
When someone hurts your feelings by bullying, sensitive kids expect the bully to be sensitive. When they’re not, often the sensitive kid wants to tell the bully how she feels, particularly when they’re young and the bullying is verbal.
It’s important to go over likely Bullying scenarios with your child to help her rehearse what to say and do when the problem occurs. Forget about insulting or threatening the bully. Forget about telling your child to “just ignore it.” “Cute” and snappy comebacks are tough to pull off, but possible if your child feels […]
Once you’ve established that something has happened that sounds like bullying, it’s time for the child to do a little assessment to figure out if the problem needs to be acted upon, and if so, how. The following are 6 questions your child can ask themselves while in the bullying situation, and afterward, when analyzing it
If your child used to talk to you, but now shuts down when talking about emotional things, this could very well just be a product of “growing pains” (young children talk openly to their parents much more than preadolescents and adolescents do), or the child may be humiliated about something, or it may be that you’ve reacted badly in the past or given off the wrong signals without meaning to.
One of the surest ways to know that your child will tell you when something is really wrong is to be there for the silly problems. As adults, we know that most of the “problems” kids go on and on about are .. . well, really trivial. And some kids are phenomenally long-winded miniature drama […]
It can be very difficult to hear “my child is a bully”from your friends or neighboors. Most parents’ natural instinct is to deny it. (“My child would never bully someone.”) Try to be aware of your own emotions, and to resist the urge to find someone else to blame or a way to excuse the […]
If you learn that your child is a target of bullying, you must create an environment that is nonthreatening and safe for him or her. Accomplish this by remembering these steps: Listen to his feelings in a nonjudgmental manner. If you react with a strong emotional outburst, you may shut your child down because he […]
In 2018, Study.com ran a survey that found 1 in 5 teachers witness bullying in the classroom every day, yet only 23% of teachers feel confident educating students about bullying. Shocked by these stats, Study.com collected bullying prevention tips from experts in the field to better support teachers working to address bullying every single day. […]