If your child is faces with cyberbullying whether it be through the use of cell phone, computer or other kind of technology the important thing is not to respond. If you respond you’re getting into the back and forth and you’re showing the person who’s doing the bullying that you’re in it.
It’s a game, you’re not going to win that game. So you want to make sure that you don’t react, you print off or save whatever those messages are – you can bring them to an adult later and you want to tell your kids to do that. Part of what having technology means is that if there’s anything mean that comes to them they show you and you let them know never to respond because if you respond that will keep it going.
So we want kids to stop it which is easy for them to do even if they want to respond because their emotions are going to kick in but responding only makes the situation worse.
As a parent if you then have that information, you want to send it to an internet provider potentially, send it into the mobile phone company, bring it to a school so they know what’s happening and they can then follow with the steps they need to, to take care of that situation.
Dr. Haber is available for speaking engagements and consultations to help your combat your school or workplace bullying issues.
Dr. Joel Haber