{"id":3862,"date":"2019-07-31T15:02:39","date_gmt":"2019-07-31T15:02:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/?p=3862"},"modified":"2022-09-02T16:37:41","modified_gmt":"2022-09-02T16:37:41","slug":"preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/","title":{"rendered":"Preserving Your Child&#8217;s Bullyproofing"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"s-share-buttons\" class=\"horizontal-w-c-circular s-share-w-c\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/sharer.php?u=https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Facebook\" class=\"s3-facebook hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=Preserving Your Child&#8217;s Bullyproofing&url=https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Twitter\" class=\"s3-twitter hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/share?url=https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Google Plus\" class=\"s3-google-plus hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.digg.com\/submit?url=https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/\" target=\"_blank\"  title=\"Share to Digg\" class=\"s3-digg hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/reddit.com\/submit?url=https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/&title=Preserving Your Child&#8217;s Bullyproofing\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Reddit\" class=\"s3-reddit hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/shareArticle?mini=true&url=https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to LinkedIn\" class=\"s3-linkedin hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.stumbleupon.com\/submit?url=https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/&title=Preserving Your Child&#8217;s Bullyproofing\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to StumbleUpon\" class=\"s3-stumbleupon hint--top\"><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/www.tumblr.com\/share\/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.respectu.com%2Fhome%2Fpreserving-your-childs-bullyproofing%2F&name=Preserving+Your+Child%26%238217%3Bs+Bullyproofing\" target=\"_blank\" title=\"Share to Tumblr\" class=\"s3-tumblr hint--top\"><\/a><div class=\"pinit-btn-div\"><a href=\"\/\/www.pinterest.com\/pin\/create\/button\/\" data-pin-do=\"buttonBookmark\"  data-pin-color=\"red\" title=\"Share to Pinterest\" class=\"s3-pinterest hint--top\"><\/a><\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<script type=\"text\/javascript\" async defer src=\"\/\/assets.pinterest.com\/js\/pinit.js\"><\/script><a href=\"mailto:?Subject=Preserving%20Your%20Child&#8217;s%20Bullyproofing&Body=Here%20is%20the%20link%20to%20the%20article:%20https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/\" title=\"Email this article\" class=\"s3-email hint--top\"><\/a><\/div><h2 class=\"p1\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-3863\" src=\"http:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/bullyproofing-preservation.jpg\" alt=\"Bullyproofing Preservation\" width=\"818\" height=\"585\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/bullyproofing-preservation.jpg 818w, https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/bullyproofing-preservation-300x215.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/bullyproofing-preservation-768x549.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 818px) 100vw, 818px\" \/><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-size: 11px; font-weight: normal;\">Copyright: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.123rf.com\/profile_zurijeta\">zurijeta \/ 123RF Stock Photo<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Once the crisis is resolved, we move to the third stage, which I refer to as the bullyproofing preservation phase.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">Understand that some kids will go through several crises before figuring out how to remain bullyproofed. So you&#8217;ll have to repeat the process as it ebbs and flows.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p1\">The key to successful bullyproofing preservation is communication. I encourage parents to make in-depth discussions with their children a monthly routine, rather than a chance event. By talking regularly with your children about their social interactions and the bully dynamics they experience (which can change as your child changes), you&#8217;ll develop a closer, more durable bond with your kids, and create natural opportunities for them to tell you when something is wrong. Once again, the adage &#8220;an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure&#8221; proves its worth.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\">However! (And this is a big &#8220;however!&#8221;) There can be too much of a good thing. If the crisis has passed, <i>let it pass. <\/i>Don&#8217;t ask about it every day. Don&#8217;t insist on frequent reports from your child and the school if things seem to have returned to baseline. If your child comes home from school happy, let it go. Don&#8217;t press and look for problems in every nook and cranny, or your child will learn to do the same thing: look for problems when there really aren&#8217;t any.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p3\">If your child is a target, it&#8217;s likely that he needs to learn how to care <i>less <\/i>about the bullies, not think about them more. Thinking about them all the time gives them more power over the child&#8217;s life. So it&#8217;s okay to check in once a week casually (&#8220;Is everything working with the plan we came up with?&#8221; &#8220;Are you having a better time in school this week?&#8221;), but there&#8217;s no need to dig unless the child is continuing to give cues that something is wrong. Talking in-depth once a month is plenty during the preservation stages.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Once the crisis is resolved, we move to the third stage, which I refer to as the bullyproofing preservation phase.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3863,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[92,89],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v23.5 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Preserving Your Child&#039;s Bullyproofing - Bullying Speaker, Counselor &amp; Expert<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.respectu.com\/home\/preserving-your-childs-bullyproofing\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Preserving Your Child&#039;s Bullyproofing - Bullying Speaker, Counselor &amp; 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