If they need the stylish clothes and the hairspray and the contact lenses to feel okay about themselves for now, so be it. It’s not about wimping out; it’s about your child’s self-esteem and emotional survival in some very difficult years, where fitting in (and therefore “blending” in) is of primary importance.
Bullies will find any excuse to pick on a target. Too tall. Too short. Too fat. Too skinny. Too smart. Too stupid. Poor. An out-of-fashion haircut. Glasses. Braces. Different religion. Different race. Perceived homosexuality. Poor athletic ability. Flat-chested. Developing breasts early. A stutter. Teacher’s pet. Shy. Disabled. Any type of perceived vulnerability will make a […]
People sometimes ask me if there’s a “bullying gene.” No, not as far as we can tell. Is it because of neglectful parents, birth order, the media .. . ? Probably a little of everything you’d imagine. But it makes many people wonder why bullying is getting worse. Babies are born with certain temperaments. Some […]
For generations, we’ve heard and passed on the same advice about how to deal with bullies—and yet, the bullying problem seems to be getting worse, not better. Maybe that’s because the advice doesn’t work? Ignore the bullies and they’ll go away. Bullying is a normal rite of passage. Just tell the teacher and it’ll stop. […]
What makes certain children targets for bullies? There are certain characteristics of kids who are targets for bullies but we have to be really careful about this because if a kid wants to bully a certain child they can bully anybody it doesn’t matter what the kid has but there are certain things that […]